Tujhme chupi si jo shayri hai..

I love this verse from the song 'subhanalla' from 'yeh jawaani hai deewani'

Ek din kabhi jo khud ko pukaare

Meri zubaan se tu zara, 

Tujh mein chhupi si jo shayari hai

Tujhko sunaaun main zara, 

Such a beautiful thought by Amitabh Bhattacharya

How beautiful when someone says i will acquaint you with your own hidden beauty...which you are unable to see yourself. 

However, this passionate teenage/twenties serenading love doesn't last forever, it soon gets hidden under grown up responsibilities like career, marriage, kids, fame, success, EMIs etc. With time we often forget our own beauty and change to please others, maybe a partner, boss, friends, society in order to be more accepted, more loved, more successful.

We are happiest in relationships where we don't need to change. It is a rare blessing to have a partner or a career where you can be yourself, sing your own tune, instead of singing other people's tunes. Even if you try to sing their tune, you always feel you're going off on most notes. Even if you do sing it, its still not your song, not the song you were born to sing and you're not going to be happy singing it. 

Even more beautiful is a relationship where you discover parts of yourself which you didn't know existed, the relationship makes you feel safe and loved enough to drop your insecurities and make your life bigger, better, larger or do whatever it is that you always wanted to but were too scared to, knowing that you always have that cocoon to come back to, which will nurture you unconditionally when you need it. 

These scenarios however are very difficult and unrealistic to sustain though you may be fortunate to experience them in bursts. I have been fortunate  :) 

I have yet to see a love like that - that has sustained time, marriage, kids, monetary issues, sickness etc. 

That type of love usually ends as soon as you step out of the Bollywood movie :)

But there is one person  on whom you can rely at all times to make you feel loved and nurtured. 

Any guesses who that could be?  

Answers in the next post 

Love 
Me